BE MORE

Make a list of your talent and resources. Try to match your income-earning ability with something you love to do.!!!!

It's being so busy for me and it might even get busier. 

Do not diminish yourself by saying " I can't do this or i do not deserve anything good". Even though you may be at rock bottom, You are of great worth. Work hard to break from codependency. Tap into the many resource available and educate yourself. Decide to change today, and resolve not to get caught in the same trap over and over. Make healthy choices and stick to them .

Dare to learn a new skill,  even if you think you can't....!!!

Start a chain reaction of kindness of being good to people. Don't wait for a special occasion. " God knew that there'd be unfair situations. That's why he's already arranged a comeback for every setback, vindication for every wrong, a new beginning for every disappointment. Go out and be a blessing to someone. Be good to people....!!!!!!!!!!

Chapter  22 Keeping all your appointments with hope. Who is excited? i am super, uber, extra excited. This chapter is the last of this wonderful book by Dondi Scumaci. Yea, it is the last chapter of the book but it is not our last chapter towards growth. The chapter is about hope. And hope is an action. Hope has legs. Hope is a gift that lifts two hearts - yours and another .  Each of us has the power to plant the seed of hope, to help others persevere and accomplish great things to inspire greatness in another life.You can encourage others to push through obstacles, find new approaches or explore new options. Reinforce hope and expectancy in your own life by planting it in the life of another.........!!!!!!  Next book ????????

Chapter 21 Pulling Complacency  Complacency is the decision to take the path of least resistance. And it presents neglect and neglect equals decline.  Can you see how they are connected? Every human/goals needs attention and care. Who or what are you taking for granted? The people or things we take for granted disappear. It is very horrible to think of the things we treasure disappearing from our lives. we take for granted the things that are working for or appear to be. These are the things and the people in our lives who do not scream for our attention. We may even take for granted our skill set and knowledge ( Juliet, this was you, ''wink'') . Complacency creates a vacuum and what fills the vacuum is dangerous. Complacency requires compromise. Well, the good news is that you can have and keep what you value if you take care of it and focus on it. Hold on to this values tightly. Let your time, your goals and your priorities reflect what you tre...

Remember that winter is a season  and spring comes next.  When spring comes,  you will be like the tree that survived winter  and said, ''I have survived the winter,  and i have grown.''

Chapter 20 Growing through adversity And This Chapter has a lot of wonderful lessons, just as the previous ones.Reading this book has made me understand life better. It has made me to understand that i'm not alone. We all have things that we are going through, but the difference is that some people handle theirs well enough and grow through them. We all are growing, We all want to be more and be better. You really are a light no matter how little you shine. I will be using more of  the author's words, because i really need this one to sink and stick in your head.  According to the author, HOPE is an action or a discipline. Hope is faith and science. It comes in many containers and some often are most beautiful because they have been broken.  Have you been broken before?. ''I just can't stop smiling right now because my answer to that question is many a time. Uncountable but i am proud of myself because some how, i bounce back even stronger.'...

Chapter 19 Learn from master gardeners (Find a mentor) I trust we all had a restful holiday.? I couldn't share during the holiday. The author of this book really have a way of titling her chapters to make the lessons learned stick. she has a way with words and i am really thankful to God i came across this beautiful book. God bless Dondi Scumaci always. The author stressed the need to find a mentor and also to be a mentor to someone. We all need mentor (s) in our lives. We all need someone to lean on. According to her the greatest stumbling is on the inside, not the outside. What this simply mean is that we all have a lot going on inside of us. Many a time we do not have a way of letting them out. We have ideas and dreams but we need the guidance of trusted people or people we look up to - to help us actualize and model our goals.  Mentoring builds the heart and forges confidence. People who have been mentored tend to earn more. Mentors will see the things you...

GOODMORNING....!!!

Chapter 18 Training the Vine We are gradually getting to the finish of this beautiful book and this chapter is very essential for growth. The vine in the tittle represents us and the need for us to always get feedback(s)on how well we have done, areas that need improvement and the areas we need to cut off or drop. Try seeing yourself as a garden, and we know that every beautiful garden requires some cutting down and pruning and these helps to strengthen, promote and encourages plants to bloom. Feedback does same to us. Feedbacks is one of the most effective tools available to you. Use it to reinforce what is working and to cut away what is not. Continuous improvement is the call to action. Taking feedback, whether spoken or silent, and putting it to work for you - making it profitable. What have you learned in the last thirty days? It's your question, answer it and be sincere. There is a lot of room for improvement. You can start today.

You can move, you're not a tree.

Chapter 17 Reach Beyond Your Comfort Zone Today's chapter is about leaving that your settled method of life that requires little effort and yields only barely acceptable skills.  The space between where you are today and where you want to be could be named growth. It also can be called risk. What got you here will not take you one step further. There is a need for every individual to continually strive to be better than you were the other day, and to achieve that, you must be willing to leave that comfortable state of yours which could be limiting and learn more skills and be more as a person. Personal development is key to growth. We shouldn't wait for someone to roll out the corporate rug for us. It is up to us to build our own road. Paths are personal things. Each is unique, just as unique as the person who travels it. Be your own mentor, discover your strength and focus on experiences. In your comfort zone there is a sense of familiarity, security and ...

Good morning Dearie...!!! Happy Eid Mubarak to all my muslim friends. May the blessings of Allah keep your heart and home.

To fully appreciate the power of gratitude, we might also look at the other end of the spectrum. The absence of gratitude leaves a mark on performance, morale, and most certainly the bottom line. A simple thank you is one of the most powerful form of recognition available, and it costs nothing. The absence of gratitude, on the other hand, can be very expensive. - Dondi Scumaci

Chapter 16 Grace and Gratitude Nourish Hope This chapter talks about courteous good will and the readiness to show appreciation. Many people forget to be grateful and how to wonder at what is simple and precious. We let foolish things to annoy us, and we give our strength to things that should not even get our attention.  My dear, gratitude is a powerful thing. Gratitude produces resiliency and hope.Gratitude heals. Research draws a direct line between gratitude and health. Research suggests that grateful individuals have more energy and optimism. That grateful people are less bothered by life hassles. That grateful people are more resilient in the face of stress. That grateful people have better health. Grateful people suffer less depression than the rest of us. If being a grateful person would earn me all this without a cost, why can't i practice gratitude. It is something we can learn and improve on. Gratitude encourages the heart....!!!

Just as optimism is a skill and can be learned, Negativity is a habit. It is unchecked pessimism.  If you find yourself framing events as a pessimist  would, you can do something about that. And be FAST.....!!!

Chapter 15 FRAMING LIFE EVENTS. This chapter talks about hopefulness and confidence about the future or the success of something.According to the book looking through the other eyes is often a breakthrough strategy. Being positive is a virtue that a lot of people do not have.Unfortunately negativity appears to be automatic or more neutral.  If you want to change the way you feel, you must change the way you think. Events of life don,t define you, they reveal you. We are in-charge of how we respond to the event of life.We may not control what happens, but we must always control how we respond to what happens. How we frame or interpret an event will always determine our response to it. You can begin looking at life through the eyes of an optimist. When you change the frame, you change the response and when you change the response, you change the outcome. Optimism is a skill, Learn it...!!

GOOD MORNING...!!! Make today count...

Chapter 14 Broken Fences and open Gates. The chapter is about building productive boundaries.   But before i start , i'd like to ask if you have a border problem in your life ? If your answer is yes, do not worry or beat yourself up, many people do. I too do in some areas. And as a certain saying goes '' knowledge is power.'' You do not know everything and since you are in this journey of personal growth, you ain't doing badly. Just keep seeking and you must find and be more. According to the author, when you fail to establish boundaries or maintain your gates and fences, you invite people to trespass, and that places a strain on your relationships and results. Don't get it all twisted, borders aren't for baring people out. It is for the opposite. Effective boundaries allow us to live, love, and work effectively. To protect your self-respect, protect what you cherish, and also allow you to ask for what you need.When you live your life, w...

Allow yourself a season of rest..!!!

Chapter 13 Find your balance and protect your plan This chapter is simply about finding our life balance . I know that maintaining a healthy life balance is not only essential for happiness and our well-being; it can be a massive boost to our productivity towards our career and businesses. Someone who is well balanced has a greater ability to focus their attention on their goals and energy on attaining their goals, taking inventive actions and moving forward fast. The question is what does life -balance mean? and how do we achieve it in the midst of our juggles in life. Juggling is very hard . Juggling through our commitments, our relationships, finances, emotions, health, and so on. Thinking about all these is exhausting. My head is spinning already. Well, there are steps you can take according to the book to change what isn't working get back so control in your life. and once you start seeing results, you will be better prepared to maintain the new found balance. Yo...

Very apt

Good Morning!!!

Ultimately i have learned that God is the source of the dream and the success. Meaningful goals will change you in meaningful ways. Your destination is the goal, but there is always purpose in the trip...

Testing your goals still from the book and chapter under review. We all need to test our goals to make sure they are real and are really ours not someone else's goal. So many people copy other people and would want to be like them - they set the wrong goals and they never succeed. Why did they not succeed? because it is not their dream and setting goals on someone else's dreams is a waste  of time. So darling, test your goals with questions like these: Why do i want to have this, do this, or become this?. Good question, you know yourself better than anyone. Be sincere towards answering this question. How will achieving this goal contribute to my grand design? You were not design to just exist, you were made with a purpose for a greater purpose. How will accomplishing  these goal make a difference?.  What will my life look like if i don't achieve this goals? Some of your goals won,t pass this test. You might realize they are expectations others have of you, ...

Chapter 12 Making it Real (Setting and achieving goals) Before reviewing today's chapter, going forward, i would be reviewing two chapters in a day to able me share other books i'm reading. There are many people who long to do more with their lives. They have the vision, but they do not know how or where to begin. Too often the dream has been placed on a shelf like a memorabilia of the heart. It is very pretty to look at but we are not quite sure what to do with it. If that sounds like you, i encourage you to get this book and read this chapter thoroughly because i will just be doing a review and that won't be enough. Someone once said that successful people have their goals written down and they review them everyday - so maybe you need to write yours down too and revisit them everyday. The moment you put your goals in writing you engage the reticular activating system in your brain. Oh, what happens afterwards is that your brain is on high alert, looking for and...

The law of attraction states that what we focus on we attract into our lives. Our focus is driven by our thoughts and feelings. So how can we make sure our thoughts are pulling us in the right direction? Here are a few tips to help you with your thoughts and feelings: Accept that you can not control your thoughts: It sounds crazy yea? but it is the truth. You can not always control your thoughts and trying to force it can actually cause you to think it more. Try not to think about a certain thing, tell yourself you won't be thinking about it and you know what happens, you think about that thing the whole day. So, if you have a problem about something and you can't stop thinking about it, you need to accept it and move on. Replace every negative thought with a positive thought : Once you have accepted that thought actively replace it with a corresponding positive thought. For instance, if you are constantly worrying about ''not having a enough money '' t...

Personal growth is KEY....!!! !

Make today Count!!!!

I feel offended about what a taxi driver said to me this morning. So, we agreed that i was going to pay a certain amount and when i got to the office, i gave him money and demanded for my balance. Guess what the unfortunate fellow said to me..... That i am a woman, that once i go into the office and smile or say some sh** my male colleagues would give me money without me asking. Can you imagine how stupid some people can be? What does being a woman got to do with my money, my work and my balance that he had? I wasn't going to keep quiet, i told him off immediately and insisted that he gave me my balance. I warned him not to say that to any woman again. Some men just open their mouth and rubbish will start flowing. 

Daring to dream is like writing a story. What is the story you would write about your future? What does that vision look like? I encourage you to write your story, because there is a huge difference between a life with vision and a life without it. The story you tell about your future is like a road map. An old map will take us to an old place. If we want to move beyond the old boundaries, we must create a new map, with a new story. Have a restful night.

My new read with my friends. Very interesting, with so many lessons to learn. Little fires everywhere - the book And i was gifted this last week, during toastmasters meeting.  Don't i just love books? Habit of reading.

We were not designed to simply exist. We were made with purpose for a great purpose. If you do not have a sense of your purpose now, it is simply because you have not found it. Maybe it means you have not searched it out. Perhaps you haven't been asking the question, what is my dream? What is my God given legacy? What is the story i want to write with my life? If you begin asking the question, your answer will come. Keep asking until it does. From the book - Ready, Set...Grow!

So, on my way to the office , i spent 15 minutes of my life on my phone without saying a word to the driver except for the greetings exchanged . Why didn't i try to find out how the man was doing? i simply would have asked '' how are you?'' it wouldn't have hurt. I believe and know it that one of the reasons why people are getting more depressed and isolated is our addiction to our mobile phones. Mobile phones have reduced the rate at which we physically interact with one another which helps us to connect more with people, release tension and feel loved.  I must do something about this addiction and relationship with my phone.

MAKE TODAY COUNT.     THE SECRET OF YOUR SUCCESS  IS DETERMINED BY       YOUR DAILY AGENDA.!!!

The power of story written by Jim Loehr has this to say to us about life stories: They may or may not inspire us to hope-filled action to better our lives.They may or may not take us to where we ultimately want to go. But since our destiny follows our stories, it is imperative that we do everything in our power to get our stories right. For most of us that means some serious editing..!! Does this talk to you?

We started believing it when people said to us, ''that's impossible.'' We got busy, tried, tired and overwhelmed. If you can relate to that, i hope i inspire you to dream a big dream again. Maybe you need to go back in time to accomplish that, remember those days when being a superhero actually made a lot of sense to you? Those days when you thought you could change the world and that everything were possible? Everything you thought and believed then are still very obtainable. All you need do is - DARE TO.

Chapter 11 Grand Design (Daring to Dream) Yea, i know i have been mute for a couple of days.I have been dealing with some personal issues that was almost drowning me and i needed some alone time from everything to find me.I'm back and stronger and the personal growth continues.Many a time we feel like giving up due to the so much noise around us, but giving up would't solve any problem,it will rather compound the issues caused by the noise.Always take a time off, it does help to refocus. Now, this chapter is very motivating and daring. It is a most read for those who think it is too late to dream, those who can't seem to dream, those who are afraid to dream, those who no longer remember their dreams and so on.I'd start off by asking some of the questions asked by the author of this book........... If you could do anything, and you knew you could not fail, what would you try? Do you remember your dreams? We aren't used to thinking like this , yea? Some...

Motivated, Determined     and Ready to Slay the day. Monday Motivation. MonSlay......!!!

I encourage you today to never say anything about yourself or anyone that you do not sincerely want to be true. Speak life, hope and blessings always.

It is not enough not to say negative things but complete it by replacing what is negative and limiting with what is positive and empowering. The negativity must stop and the positivity  must start.

Chapter 10 Bold Blessings Today's Review is about spoken words. Much have been said about managing ones self-talk and using using positive affirmations. Just as words can build and empower us, they also have the power to cripple and destroy us.You must be careful about what you say to yourself and others because the words we speak are the seeds we plant.Whatever is in the seed will grow. It will produce.

The stages of change, the milestones, how to get there and change principles....!!! When you want to face change, denial steps in.When denial steps in to distract you, tell yourself the truth. It is not time for you to start lying to yourself, focus on the facts not the initial feelings. Confront reality dear. Gather information before reaching for conclusions or judging the change. Inside of change, truth is more important than good news. Surely, resistance must surface, and when it does empower yourself and others. Acknowledge your feelings towards the change but,dear, focus on what you can control rather than the ones you cannot. Turn your objections into questions. Identify what you need to do to be successful.Remember, our responses shape our outcome. Explore, find possibilities, think options, get involved and involve others who are impacted by the change. Set short-term goals and make progress visible. Here, i involved my friends who would love to read more. So we read a b...

Change is  hard at first, messy in the middle and GORGEOUS at the end...!!!

Three reasons why people change: They have learned a lot. They have suffered enough. They got tired of always the same thing. You can always start over...!!!!

You should probably ask yourself these questions. No one knows you better than yourself. What changes are you managing now?. With these changes in mind, where do you see yourself in the process?. What must you do to reach the next milestone?. Good Luck..!!!

Change is coming with or without your permission. some changes will be thrust upon us, many a time we want to throw them back. My dear, remember , change isn't just about losing something. Change add something to us. Change is uncomfortable  but if we manage it well,  if we are open to it, The change we face will become the victories we celebrate. Think about it...!!!!

CHAPTER 9 Embracing Change Accordingto Dondi, ''the ability to adapt and manage change is an important skill set '' whether personally or professionally.  Human's initial reaction to change aren't always positive.We want things to get better but we are not ready to make changes where necessary. we want a better life but would not change those things that hinder us, we want things to stay the same but in a better level yet won't accept a change.. My dear, better doesn't happen without change. We should know that inside of every change there is an ending, middle and beginning. No doubt, endings are hard, we let go of something when we end something for a change. When we let go, we feel a loss. Truth is that letting go is harder than the change needed . Someone once said that '' we don't resist change. We resist letting go''.  We cannot reach for what is new until we let go of the thing we are clutching so tightly. How m...

There are two groups of people in the world. First group are people who encourage and believe in you. They add something to you. When you leave their presence you feel better. You become more confident, more prepared and equipped. These humans export hope. The second group are people Dondi Scumaci, call the vampires (lol) because the suck the life outta everything and everyone they touch.You can almost hear the giant vacuum fire up when they walk into a room, These fellows are miserable, they look company and cheerers and they are constantly recruiting members.  Do yourself a favor and stay away from such people. They are very toxic..!!!

Chapter 8 Toxic Alliances (pulling the relationships that hinder your growth) Good morning peeps. Trust we all had a restful night? I did and thank God i'm healthy and alive.  Straight to today's chapter review. Having a dangerous alliance, a poisonous connection or a deadly agreement. Jeez, the definition alone should be a drive enough to pull toxic influences from your life. My dear, sometimes we must pull people from our lives. Yes, it can be very difficult and painful to end a relationship, but, it is the right thing to do when it is toxic. The worst is allowing a relationship, even a long term one to wreck you, disable you,rob you your credibility and your peace. While we may not purposefully align or partner with toxic people, we do that when we passively accept or participate in their behavior. There are two groups of people in the world, those who encourage us and believe in us, these people make our lives better and beautiful while the second group s...