Review of chapter 14 of the book Ready, Set....Grow

Chapter 14
Broken Fences and open Gates.

The chapter is about building productive boundaries.

 But before i start , i'd like to ask if you have a border problem in your life ? If your answer is yes, do not worry or beat yourself up, many people do. I too do in some areas. And as a certain saying goes '' knowledge is power.'' You do not know everything and since you are in this journey of personal growth, you ain't doing badly. Just keep seeking and you must find and be more.

According to the author, when you fail to establish boundaries or maintain your gates and fences, you invite people to trespass, and that places a strain on your relationships and results.

Don't get it all twisted, borders aren't for baring people out. It is for the opposite. Effective boundaries allow us to live, love, and work effectively.

To protect your self-respect, protect what you cherish, and also allow you to ask for what you need.When you live your life, work and love without boundaries, you invite conflict, tension and disappointment.

Without boundaries you put ourselves into uncomfortable corners. Always think of your boundaries as the best conflict prevention at your disposal. No doubt, boundaries can be so difficult. Many a time, to protect them you feel selfish or feel that you are at risk for hurting someone's feelings.

It is easier to set boundaries with people we do not know well than people we are close to or intimate with. Boundaries are the limits you put with others to stand for yourself, To protect what you cherish and teach people how to treat you. Boundaries are your YES(es) and your NO(s), they are your fence lines and your gates.

It is very important that you know that boundaries do not control other people. To control others is not the purpose of boundaries.

The Saying '' Good fences make good neighbors'' is very true.

Take a moment to think about the fences in your life and relationships.